STOP RIGHT THERE!!!
It is at this point in the process that most people switch off, take a snooze or run away..... the mention of Goal Setting!
Goal Setting workshops are everywhere these days, aren't they? It doesn't matter what training course or seminar you go to there is always something about goals setting. The problem with this is that most people get bored with the process of being told "you must set goals" - don't worry, I get it!
The truth is that we set goals in our lives every single day, whether it be getting up on time, getting to work on time, getting a specific job done or getting home in time to go out with your wife or husband - they are all goals, just because they aren't set out in a formulaic way doesn't make them any less of a goal.
Let me ask you a question: are you married? If not I'm sure you can imagine the process of arranging a wedding, right? Well, this is the perfect example of setting a goal! Let's go back and look at the 10 stage well-formed outcome model:
1- Stated in positive terms - "We are going to get married."
2- Self-initiated & Maintained - "We need to organise everything, so it's all done right."
3- For what purpose - "So that we can spend the rest of our lives together, happily married."
4- Sensory-based - "I love you with my heart and soul, I love how you look, and I love to hear your voice telling me you love me."
5- Sequenced and Chunked - "Book the church, check - Book the reception hall, check - Book the catering, check - Buy the brides dress, check."
6- Resources - "How much is this going to cost and who can help us?"
7- When, Where and Whom - "We need to set a date, decide on the church and set a guest list." 8- Evidence-based - "By the end of that day we'll be married forever."
9- Compelling - "I can't wait to spend the rest of my life with you."
10- Ecological - "We fit so well into each other's lives, and we want to build our lives together."
Now, if you've done all of that I have one question: did you get married on the date you set and at the time you set? Yes, of course you did because you planned it so well!
My next question is: if it works so well for planning a wedding what stops you from doing it for the rest of your life?
STOP RIGHT THERE!!!
It is at this point in the process that most people switch off, take a snooze or run away..... the mention of Goal Setting!
Goal Setting workshops are everywhere these days, aren't they? It doesn't matter what training course or seminar you go to there is always something about goals setting. The problem with this is that most people get bored with the process of being told "you must set goals" - don't worry, I get it!
The truth is that we set goals in our lives every single day, whether it be getting up on time, getting to work on time, getting a specific job done or getting home in time to go out with your wife or husband - they are all goals, just because they aren't set out in a formulaic way doesn't make them any less of a goal.
Let me ask you a question: are you married? If not I'm sure you can imagine the process of arranging a wedding, right? Well, this is the perfect example of setting a goal! Let's go back and look at the 10 stage well-formed outcome model:
1- Stated in positive terms - "We are going to get married."
2- Self-initiated & Maintained - "We need to organise everything, so it's all done right."
3- For what purpose - "So that we can spend the rest of our lives together, happily married."
4- Sensory-based - "I love you with my heart and soul, I love how you look, and I love to hear your voice telling me you love me."
5- Sequenced and Chunked - "Book the church, check - Book the reception hall, check - Book the catering, check - Buy the brides dress, check."
6- Resources - "How much is this going to cost and who can help us?"
7- When, Where and Whom - "We need to set a date, decide on the church and set a guest list." 8- Evidence-based - "By the end of that day we'll be married forever."
9- Compelling - "I can't wait to spend the rest of my life with you."
10- Ecological - "We fit so well into each other's lives, and we want to build our lives together."
Now, if you've done all of that I have one question: did you get married on the date you set and at the time you set? Yes, of course you did because you planned it so well!
My next question is: if it works so well for planning a wedding what stops you from doing it for the rest of your life?
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